It may seem hard to think twice before talking, but you won’t lose anything if you try for one whole day, you will see that people will like you more because the word talkative is a negative adjective.

Step one: think if what you are going to say is going to cause a change or not.

Step two: think about if your words will hurt your partner or not.

Step three: predict the answers of your partner before talking.

Step four: find a good way to say what you are going to say.

Step five: think about if what you are saying is positive or negative.

Step six: remember what was the last time you told your friend a negative thing.

Isn’t this easy?

If you think that you are sad and want to tell your partner about how sad you are, you should write your feelings down on a piece of paper.

If you tell your partner about the bad things that happened I will call this negativity transfer, there are two kinds of negativity transfer, thE 1st one i call it sharing negativity, when the two sides get negative energy, example:

Sara: Today was so bad, at my work there is an annoying woman always annoying me and telling me what to do like if she was my owner! Even worse, my children are so annoying. I let them get out with their dad to just sit alone in the house and drink coffee.

Kara: yes right, I really hate children, I am going to let them go out with their dad, too.

In this example, the first side lets the second side get angry, but the first side still has negative feelings.

The other type of negativity transfer is giving negativity.

Example: Sara: the doctor ruined my eyebrows, he made them so thick and ugly, boohoo!

Kara: No, your eyebrows are beautiful, there is nothing wrong with them. Sara: No, they are ugly, what should I tell my husband about these ugly things above my eyes?

Kara:No, they are only a little bit thick, otherwise they are so good.

Sara:Look, you said that they are thick.

Kara:I am sorry, now go to your house and relax, take a shower, okay?

Sara: Okay, bye.

Kara’s child: mom, I am hungry. Kara:go eat anything from the fridge, I don’t care.

In this example, Sara gave the negativity to Kara, and she relaxed because she told someone about why she is sad and Kara is going to share negativity with her family.

That is why you shouldn’t talk about why are you sad in front of other people, but what if Sara  thought about what is she going to say before saying it, then it will go like this:

Sara’s thoughts: should I tell her about my eyebrows, no I don’t want to give her negativity, I should tell her about the cake that I made.

Sara: Today I made a very delicious cake, here I made some for you because you helped me that time with the money in the restaurant.

Kara: oh, thank you so much. I am going to call the kids and make tea to drink with the cake.

Kara makes the tea and calls the kids, and they eat happily.

Did you realize the big difference?

But the big question didn’t get answered yet, how to prevent negativity from entering and ruining your inner peace?

Step one: if you realize a friend always telling you about their bad day, you should get far from them, just like in this example:

Lily: Today was so bad! I got late for school and the teacher rounded me!

Chloe: yes I know, but excuse me, I have to go to my practice.

This is how Chloe prevented negativity to Enter and ruin her inner peace. 

What about answering this question:how to take out negativity if you already have it?

Doing your hobby, like drawing, sewing, knitting, and you can do sports or go for a walk or even buy a pet, but the best way is to clean and give things to people who need it. This will help you organize your stuff and let go of negativity.

Hope you learned and enjoyed.